Stop Focusing on Your Looks: 10 Traits That’ll Make Men Go Gaga Over You Instantly!

Physical appearance is often the first thing that catches our attention when meeting someone new, but true attraction and connection go beyond looks. 

A Redditor asked, what traits in a girl do you find attractive or impressive besides her physical appearance, guys? And here are the top picks

 

1. Laugh

“My wife’s laughs are everything. Sometimes she watches a show on her laptop in our room, and I hear her cracking up from down the hall. Love it.” said one.

“My wife also, when she did something ‘mean,’ does this adorable eheheheh laugh. It’s the absolute best.” another said.

 

2. Caring And Considerate 

“One of the main reasons I started dating my current girlfriend was because she accidentally spilled popcorn in my car after our first date. I profusely apologized and asked if she could clean it up—the car is a POS, so I didn’t care.

Got home. She texted me, apologizing again. I don’t know why, but her caring about spilling popcorn in my bad car made me realize that maybe she could care about me too.” shared one.

“A caring nature is so important it’s unreal.” another said.

 

3. Accountability

“If she can openly admit when she’s wrong or that she messed up, that’s attractive as it shows maturity and ability to judge yourself impartially, and it means you are less likely to repeat the mistake. This also means what you feel for her is not only love, it’s respect, which is just as important.” a user said.

“I have dated girls who could never just say I was wrong; I shouldn’t have done that; I’m sorry. I get that it’s hard sometimes, but it’s relieving to admit wrongdoing and ask for forgiveness. But when you obsessively chase not having done wrong in the first place, it’s a tax on both parties.” another said.

 

4. Melodic Voices 

“I find a woman’s voice to be one of the best factors in determining if I’m attracted to a woman.” said one.

“Yep. There’s a Twitch streamer named Friskk. I know nothing about her, and I’ve never watched her stream, but the first time I heard her voice on another streamer’s co-stream, I about melted.” another said.

 

5. Intelligence

“Good looks only go so far when you realize she doesn’t even know basic life skills.” a Redditor said.

“Years ago, I had been dating a girl getting a neuroscience degree. Even though I wasn’t a scientist, I loved talking to her and listening to her go on and on about the brain and central nervous system. Not only was she smart, but she was passionate and exciting.” a Redditor shared.

 

6. Present In The Moment 

“Agree on this. When she focuses on you and nothing else.” another said.

 

7. Self-Sufficiency 

“I love self-sufficient girls. I don’t want to date a dependent.” said one.

“When my wife and I were dating, one of the things that made her stand out was that she was self-sufficient; she didn’t need help or expect it. We dated for almost two years before deciding to move in together, and that was mostly a confluence of circumstances; she wanted to live on her own because it was freedom for her.” a user shared.

 

8. Optimism

“Optimism. I’m a bit of a pessimist at times. I fall into nihilistic thinking a lot. Good to have someone who can look at our future positively.” said one.

“I completely agree with this. It can be easy to get caught up in negative thinking, so having someone who can provide a positive perspective can be a huge help.” another added.

 

9. Loyalty

“It’s not just about being loyal to your partner, but also to your relationship. Honesty and openness are key to maintaining that trust and loyalty.” said one.

“Loyalty is an important quality to have in a partner. It’s reassuring to know that they have your back and will stick with you through thick and thin.” another added.

 

10. Confidence

“Confidence! Being in a relationship with someone who constantly requires reassurance, praise, and affirmation is exhausting. Know your worth and if others don’t recognize it, move on and find relationships with people who do.” a user said.

“My ex-wife was always fishing for compliments, especially early on in our relationship. She’s still doing it, just not with me anymore.” said one.

 

11. Not Being On The Phone

“Went on a date last week, and the woman never took her phone out of her purse. Super hot!” said one. 

 

12. Maturity

13. Independent

14. Financial Literacy