Accepting stepchildren can be a challenging process for families, particularly for those who are welcoming a daughter-in-law or son-in-law into their family.
Family members may struggle with adjusting to the presence of stepchildren, especially if they have preconceived notions about what a “family” should look like.
A similar case happened last Christmas. A Redditor asked “Am I wrong for calling my wife ridiculous for saying that she won’t attend my family’s christmas over some stockings?” and we want to know what you think.
The Original Poster’s (OP) mom has a Christmas tradition: to get custom stockings of her grandchildren’s names (Cody, Mia, Sammy, Alaina…etc…) and hang those stockings near the fireplace.
OP and his wife have been together for 3 years. OP’s wife has a son (OP’s stepkid) from her former marriage. When she found out about OP’s mom’s tradition, she said she expects the stepson to get his custom stocking and be hanged along with the other kids’ stockings.
OP asked his mom, and she said she loves her step-grandchild but does not feel comfortable yet having a stocking of his name and hanging it in her home.
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What Happened Next?
OP’s wife refused to drop it and chose it as a hill to die on. OP’s wife said she would not be attending the Christmas party if OP’s mom didn’t do it. They started arguing about it for days.
OP finally blew up and told her it was unreasonable for OP or her to dictate how OP’s mom decorates her home and what stockings she hangs. OP’s wife started crying and called OP ‘blind’ for not seeing how OP’s family was treating the stepson.
OP said they love him, and some stocking isn’t going to prove anything. OP’s wife said she wouldn’t go then, and OP called her ridiculous for deciding not to go over something so trivial.
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They have been in conflict since then, and she’s refusing to speak to the OP. OP wants to know if he was wrong for saying that it was ridiculous for her to decide not to go over some stockings?
The stepson’s age is 9.
What do you think? Do you think it was appropriate for OP to call her ridiculous? or was it inappropriate for OP’s mom to not hang a stocking for the 9-year-old kiddo? What would you do in this situation?
This was originally published on Mrs Daaku Studio