Christmas is a time of the year when you spend time with your family, laugh, and open presents. But what if it is ruined over the choice of food? How would you react?
A Redditor asked AITA, Am I wrong for leaving my inlaw’s Christmas dinner after I found out they didn’t make accommodations for me?
The Original Poster (OP), a picky eater, got invited to her fiance’s Christmas dinner. It was OP’s first Christmas with them. She admits that he is a picky eater and can’t help it. It has to do with psychological factors, childhood, and personal likes and dislikes.
Now, before accepting their invitation, she let the future mother-in-law (FMIL) know that she could not eat the traditional food at the celebration and showed FMIL a variety of dishes to choose from to accommodate her.
FMIL refused and told the OP to bring her own dish. OP told her if she had to get her own dish when she was a guest, she better stay at home then. FMIL and OP went back and forth, and OP insisted she wouldn’t come if accommodations weren’t being made.
OP says, “I just thought it was a simple request, and FMIL could’ve agreed if she really wanted me there.” OP’s fiance agreed that she should bring her own dish, but she didn’t.
What Happened On The Day Of Dinner?
When OP and her fiance arrived, OP noticed that no accommodation was made for her. She got up, got her things, walked out, and went home.
OP’s FMIL and fiance were shocked. OP got many calls and texts, and her fiance came home lashing out at her. He called OP selfish and spoiled to walk out like that over a dish his mom didn’t have to make for her. OP’s fiance said it was OP’s responsibility to feed herself.
OP asks, “How is it my responsibility to feed myself when I’m a guest? Makes no sense to me.” OP told this to her fiance, and he accused her of starting a fight, ruining Christmas with family, and disrespecting his mom.
Now OP’s fiance is continuously saying she messed up and should’ve just be nice for the family’s sake. “Am I wrong?”
Was OP correct to ask her FMIL to make a new dish? Was it inappropriate for her FMIL to refuse the request and not make anything OP could eat? How would you have reacted in this situation?
This originally appeared on Mrs Daaku Studio.