We all want our children to make something of themselves and move out. A Redditor asked on a popular forum, Am I wrong, for inviting my stepdaughter to move out?
The story is exciting and raises many doubts about how money has been handled in the family. While we think she is somewhat right and somewhat wrong, we want to know from you.
Here is the entire story:
The Original Poster (OP) was a 33-year-old female and pregnant with her first child. OP lived in a two-bedroom house with her husband and stepdaughter, who was 23 years old. Stepdaughter and OP got along fine, with no significant issues, but they were also not close.
Now that the baby was coming, they needed more space.
Unfortunately, they couldn’t afford a new home. OP brought this up to her husband, asking her stepdaughter to move out. OP’s reasoning was that they needed her room for the new baby, and she was an adult with a full-time job, so it was time for her to be on her own anyway.
OP’s husband agreed, and they brought it up to her at dinner one night.
They told her they would help with her first 2 months’ rent. OP told her it would be fun and OP could go shopping and will help her decorate her new apartment. They tried to be as gentle as possible, but she was very quiet.
What Happened Next?
Privately, she told OP’s husband and her dad that even though she had a full-time job, she couldn’t afford to live on her own. OP’s husband told OP she did not need to move out, so they scrambled to find space for a new baby.
The other day OP was home alone with their stepdaughter and tried to talk to her about it again. OP offered to help her find a roommate, and she snapped at OP and told her to just leave her alone and locked herself in her room.
When OP’s husband got home from work, he was mad at OP and told OP to leave her alone and not bring it up anymore. Things had been awkward and uncomfortable since, making her pregnancy very stressful.
OP says, isn’t 23 years old enough to be on her own? She had a job, and they were willing to help her. They need space for their baby. OP asks, “Am I wrong for asking stepdaughter to move out?”
What We Think?
There is a lot of information missing from this post. To begin with, how is it that OP and her husband can afford to help her with 2 months’ rent and decorating the apartment but not couldn’t afford to rent a new space?
Wasn’t it possible for the OP and her husband to have the baby in their room for at least a year? In that one year, they could take up weekly job or weekend jobs to make extra money, up their savings, and think about moving to a bigger place together.
Even though she had a full-time job, was she living paycheck to paycheck? We all know how difficult it is to have a place of your own. We want to know what you think.
Was OP correct to ask her stepdaughter to step out? Does it sound reasonable that they wanted an extra room for the baby? How would you have reacted in this situation?
This article originally appeared on Mrs Daaku Studio.