Shaking hands can worsen anxiety and self-consciousness. One user with essential tremor wishes people were more understanding, rather than assuming stress, disease, or suggesting cures. They want candid, polite queries about their condition.
"Even bad things happen for a divine purpose," implies a lack of support in hardship. One grieving user questioned: "Was it God's plan for her to die amid world's evil? Either there's no God or s/he isn't benevolent."
"The phrase 'you'd be prettier if you lost weight' can be hurtful, attempt at concern or not. It's judgmental and unhelpful." As one user noted, “You’re so pretty; you’d be even prettier if you just lost some weight.”